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8.25.2016

I'm Single, So What?

Hey guys!

Today, I thought I’d share with you a different type of post, not a beauty nor fashion post, but a more personal one.



This year has definitely been the best year of my life, but I still had some tough moments for sure. Being in a new city with new people and far from your family made me anxious and alone at times.

Honestly, I’ve never been that girl that NEEDED a boyfriend. I’m more into letting destiny taking its course.

All my girlfriends had boyfriends and I was one of the few single ones… This never really bothered me. I always felt like I didn’t have to settle with someone just in the sakes of having a boyfriend. Not my scene. But a few months before summer I sometimes felt a little left out… Is that strange? Don’t get me wrong, I’m super happy for my friends and their relationships, but I sometimes wished I had someone too.


I’m not the most affectionate person but so what? That’s just me. I’m not one to go head first when it comes to a boy. Specially this past year, I had my guard up like crazy. I was told that being in my first year of uni, I had some sort of target on my back by the older guys. Gross I know. And even if that wasn’t the case with most guys, that just stuck with me.

This past year I felt like some guys “fell for me” (or at least that’s what they would say) without even knowing me. Liking me without having reasons to… Without knowing the weird me. The girl that enjoys eating chips with ice-cream. The girl that cries watching Masterchef. The girl that prefers sleeping on the couch even when there’s a bed available. The girl that hates talking about herself and that feels uncomfortable every time she gets complemented. You can say I have trust issues…

Summer is almost over and I can say that being single during this time gave me so much clarity. I can honestly say I have the best friends I could ask for and the most supportive family. I can’t complain. So I’m definitely not going to complain about being single. Being single is great.

Life is too short to force something with someone that’s just not there and it’s way too short to wait around for the perfect guy to show up, cause he’ll appear at some point so I might as well enjoy my life until he shows up. I’m done wasting my time.

I’m starting this new school year fresh, without a care in the world. Ready to have fun with friends, meet different people and start my new classes.



What are your thoughts about this?

Ps: I'm a teeny bit nervous about releasing a more personal post...

Xoxo Jessy ♥

26 comments :

  1. Such a wonderful post! Have a great weekend.

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  2. Yep... so what! You go girl! Great post! =)


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  3. Absolutely! If someone comes along great :) Otherwise we have so much more time for other things in life! Stay Happy!

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    1. Exactly! You totally get it haha :p

      Xoxo Jessy

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  4. Girl I totally know how you feel! Literally all of my close friends are in relationships and it can get me down SO much, I literally feel like such a single potato sometimes haha. But I'm definitely trying to think more positive and remind myself that it's fine not to have a boyfriend, it doesn't decrease my self worth!
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    1. "Single potato" Hahaha love that šŸ˜‚
      Exactly!! You go girl I'm with ya!

      Have a great weekend!
      Xoxo Jessy

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  5. I love this and SO many people can relate:) Good luck with school this year!!

    Laura
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    1. that's what I'm hoping for!! :) thanks!

      Xoxo Jessy

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  6. i completely agree, i haven't had a boyfriend in a long time but i'm happy with myself and i believe that it'll happen when the time is right. luckily none of my close friends really have boyfriends either so i don't have to see it all the time haha

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  7. Nice post! Thank you for sharing.

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  8. Nice post. Liked it.
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  9. Such an interesting read. I agree so much with you! I think you speak for a lot of young women out there. Having a boyfriend is no longer mandatory like it used to be. I have a boyfriend whom I love to pieces but honestly, if I didn't have him I wouldn't wanna be with anyone else. I'd rather be alone than with the wrong person. Why waste yourself on relationships that don't mean much or on people who might not fully appreciate and understand you? Being single is the wise option here and like you said, just letting life take its course and see where it leads you!

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    1. Aww thank you so much. I really hope people can relate to this :)
      Good for you!!! That's exactly it! I totally agree with you. It's only worth it if someone really appreciates and understands you

      Hope you have a great week
      Xoxo Jessy

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  10. Such a lovely post. I like the pictures. Keep it up.

    It would be nice to keep n touch and stay tuned. Would you like to follow each other? If yes, let me know by a hint!

    Have a lovely day,

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  11. Personally I feel like when you are in your twenties you need to stay single and not enter into any long term relationships because you are just starting to get to know yourself as an adult and that is a long and difficult process to navigate let alone bringing another person into the mix. I have noticed a lot of twenty somethings loosing their sense of self when they are in relationships.
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    1. yes!! That is such a great point. I didn't even think about that but you're so right!!! I just started to figure out myself in the past year hahaha :p
      Thanks for taking the time to read this :)

      Xoxo Jessy

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  12. It's amazing that you are sharing your personal thoughts in your blog! It helps me understand the writer better and get attached to them to keep on coming to their blogs! I see that you are staring your sophomore year at college, correct? I hope you have a wonderful school year:)

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    1. aww thank you. Yes, I feel the same way! :)
      Yes, I'm starting my sophomore year hehe Thanks!

      Xoxo Jessy

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  13. Releasing more personal posts is always nerve-wracking- but this was great! You go!!

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    1. Aww Thank You girl!! :)

      Xoxo Jessy

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